Become the One That Others Find Inspiring
You can inspire others! Earlier this year I had the opportunity to speak to college students as part of a panel discussion. The discussion focused on choices that we made to get to where we are now and embodying our dreams. The panelists shared many of their challenges and successes that have come along way.
A question that was asked was “Who has inspired you to do what you’ve done?” I’ve always hated this question. It seems like everyone else has these super interesting and talented people they mention (you know, Michelle Obama, Mother Teresa, Etc.) or it’s mom. My mother has inspired me in a lot of ways but when it really came to all the things that I do and have done, she didn’t do those things and may not have ever had an interest in doing those things.
So how the heck did I decide to take opportunities as they came?
When asked this question, I decided to be honest. The reality is that I didn’t have people who were close to me, that could show me the way when I was thinking about embarking down a new path. I had tons of support which his invaluable, but experience and advice are very different things.
I participated in pageants and didn’t know anyone else who did pageants. When I was younger, I decided to play tennis and didn’t know anything about the game. I didn’t have anyone close that I could reach out to for questions. When I decided to go to college and then on to do a master’s degree, I had to seek out people to talk to about their experience.
It was in that moment that one of the other speakers there that day pointed out that it sounded like I was the inspirer. You know how when someone tells you something about yourself that you never noticed, and it seems just so far off? This was one of those moments and it seems strange to think about.
I grew to embrace it though because it gave me a new sense of confidence about life.
In this blog post, I want to give you the pep talk that you need (and that I wish I had sooner!) to get outside of your own head and do some incredible things.
If I can be out there doing what I want, you can too!
Change Your Mindset
I’ve pulled apart the feeling of being held back and noticed that I get really scared if I let my mind dwell on something.
You know those moments, when you are too inside of your head. You over analyze asking that question or saying something that needs to be said? If those things stop you, then fear has already won.
I had the opportunity to throw my two cents into a discussion recently when I saw it going south and before those thoughts could even get in my head I had to spit out what needed to be said. Turns out, it helped the situation and someone else was inspired to speak up and share their thoughts.
Now, what if I would have let my mind dwell on what others would think if I said my comment?
Think about it this way, without speaking up, that second person may have never shared their thoughts and the whole topic would have been dismissed.
To get to this point you need to reprogram your mind by focusing on what you need to do to take that new opportunity on or focus on how you’re going to clearly get your point across.
So, how do you begin to change your mindset you ask?
- Consider what could go wrong if you don’t say something or do something? Nothing will get better, you could continue to be stuck in an undesirable situation, etc.
- You spend a lot of time thinking about the negative or thinking why you shouldn’t be the one to do something. The truth is, there isn’t anyone better and you are in the perfect place to act or the thought would have never crossed your mind.
- Focus on having an “I can’t lose” mindset. What is really the worst that will happen if you do or say that one thing anyway? You are out to learn what you are capable of!
- Recognize the fear that you have and reflect on why. Move towards resolving where the fear is really coming from.
- Focus on the support system that you have around you. They get what you are about and can see what you don’t always see. Tap into what they view as your strengths!
The next time fear and doubt starts to creep in, you will be ready!
Motivation is Everything
When it comes to moving from being the inspired to the being the inspirer, one major thing that you will need is motivation. It seems so simple, but you won’t believe how many people don’t have the motivation to act. They want to, and it seems like a good idea but that doesn’t mean anything if you aren’t going to take action.
A big part of my success in finding new activities or having the courage to speak up has been motivation.
Figure out what your motivation is. Do you want to:
- Make new friends?
- Gain more confidence?
- Become better at a skill?
- Contribute to an amazing workplace?
- Contribute a new idea that streamlines your team’s work processes?
- Be the role model you didn’t always have?
Once you figure out what your motivation and reasoning is for wanting to do something, you will feel more power inside to act.
Share Your Story
When you begin to share your story with others and open yourself up, you will find like-minded people who can share in your journey.
Bonding with individuals who share your motivation can help you on your mission. It can provide guidance or support when you need it. Be aware of who these people are and know that they can play a large part in your success.
You will also find that sharing your story and motivation will make you feel strength in what you are attempting to do. Your confidence will soar. The more it does, you will begin to realize that you belong and have a place in what you are attempting to do.
I’ve found that sharing your story also allows others to help connect you with like-minded people. The person you are sharing with may not be the right individual to provide guidance or support. But, chances are they may know someone who can.
Another great reason to find like-minded people is that by hearing their story and motivations, you may begin to feel even more connected to what you are working towards.
You Are Capable of Inspiring Others
Being the inspirer is something that you are totally capable of. If I can do it, you can do it!
Becoming the inspirer takes:
- Changing your mindset from one of doubt or negativity.
- Believing that you can do what you have set out to accomplish.
- Finding and keeping motivation to act.
- Seeking out other like-minded individuals.
These shifts will have you feeling stronger, clearer and supported. These are the things that will make it easier to keep stepping further and further out of the box you are in.
You will be doing some big things before you know it!
Tell us how you are an inspiration, share your story in the comments!
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Brandon and Cristal